But those rules never protected me from a broken heart and shattered life.
And as I observed my Christian friends, I saw they were all in the same boat I was in, an endless cycle of shallow and cheap romances that never lasted and left us emotionally bleeding and insecure.
“If you fall for that old-fashioned notion of ‘waiting on God’ for your spouse, you are likely to still be waiting when you are ninety years old!
”For many young women, these arguments can seem compelling.
It was my desperation that finally motivated me to start praying.
I’d been a Christian from the time I was five, but since then God had taken a back seat in my life. I want to script a beautiful tale just for you, but first you must give the pen to Me.
You can read books on how to strike up a conversation with a guy, get him to notice you, and increase your odds of him falling in love with you, and even books with tips on how to subtly push him toward a marriage commitment if he’s dragging his feet.
But the fact that I kept getting my heart broken again and again finally made me wonder if I was doing something wrong. I didn’t really mind obeying certain Christian guidelines for dating, as long as I could still hold the pen and write the story myself.Let him know you are interested – otherwise he may overlook you and move on to a different girl! Online dating gives you far more guys to choose from so you can ‘shop’ for the partner you’ve always dreamed of!”“You’ve got to be aggressive when it comes to finding a husband,” says yet another book on helping single young women find their husbands.These tips don’t involve witty conversation starters or learning how to seduce a guy without acting like you are.
And they won’t help you create a more appealing online profile.
No matter what modern experts say about “the overabundance of strong Christian women compared to the overwhelming lack of godly males,” or the fact that “today’s men are more afraid of commitment than any generation before them” – these things do not hinder God’s ability to script beautiful love stories for His children. And His pattern does not need to adapt around modern culture. And unlike the “new and hip” yet totally unproven relationship trends of our time, God’s romance advice always works.